Love in the air for woman over 40
Traditionally a blushing bride is on the underside of 26 years old. Couples have been planning their nuptials for months, perhaps up to a year or more. She has chosen a romantic floral bouquet; they’ve sampled the perfect tiered cake; invited fabulous guests; lamented over heavenly gowns, this all prior to the day they walk down the aisle to recite their vows.
The day has finally arrived! For any bride, no matter what her age, the wedding day is a day like no other. It is a magical day enveloped with love, happiness; hope for the future, and dreams fulfilled.
The ideal of the typical age of a bride is no longer the old standard — young. For various reasons, many women are seeking wedded bliss at a nontraditional time in their life. It is likely getting married or remarried may occur beyond age 40. For the sake of this article, let’s assume they are experienced, independent and self-assured individuals.
Whether she’s a first-time bride or has taken multiple vows, the case is no longer that the mature bride is hiding in unflattering, unassuming fashion on her wedding day. This bride is beautiful, stylish, gushing and she wants to make as vivacious a statement as her younger counterpart. She may even acquiesce and wear white, ivory or a surprisingly bold color. “The bride wears what she wants too,” said Judie McGlinchey, a professional bridal consultant/stylist.
Trending now in bridal fashion is bold hues, like hot pink or royal blue shoes just for an eye-popping punch of color underneath the gown. Some brides are putting a coordinating color sash on the gown or a little feathery flower to incorporate more color for fun.
Styles have changed as women have evolved through decades of bridal fashion design. Designers in the industry are appreciative of a mature woman, particularly those poised with the goal to make her fashion choices coincide with a picture-perfect wedding. Judie says, “True, they’re more assertive and know what they want whether they’re having a beach or destination wedding, or marrying on a cruise – they just know.”
The excitement doesn’t stop at a certain age group. According to Charlotte Bridal Boutique owners, Lynn and Ken Adkins, the eldest bride they have consulted was a beautiful, glowing, spry woman in her 80’s.
Although there may be a significant age difference, a bride is a bride… and a beautiful bride shouldn’t have boundaries because of her age. She looks forward to her wedding day like she did as a little girl.
Judie gives the same advice to younger and mature brides alike. It goes without saying, any bride can be influenced by family and friends, because their opinion means so much to her, and she might give way to the pressure in spite of her true feelings. However, as a result of the assertiveness she possesses, the bride may revisit the shop and choose the original dress, ending up with what she actually wants.
Another great piece of advice given to help deter this from happening is simple. “Don’t bring too many people with you to try on dresses. The more people you have, the more opinions you’ll have to deal with and the more decisions you will have to make. You can be guided by your family and friends, but it’s between you and the groom, it’s your day whether it’s the first wedding or another.” Who can argue with that; wasn’t figuring out the seating chart enough drama?
Being an older bride does have an essential worthwhile advantage. The 40+ bride most likely leaves behind any illusions about the day after the wedding. Her focus is not only on the day, but she and the groom are more apt to put effort into ‘From this day forward… till death do us part.’
Congratulations to all brides taking their vows to honor and cherish this summer of 2012.